February – the month of love! How are you showing yourself some LOVE? This year take some time to focus on you. You will feel better from being kind to yourself. Most of us are navigating from a place of not being good enough. Do any of these sound familiar?
- If I was thinner then I would do ______.
- If I had more energy I would _____.
- If I had more time I could _____.
- If I worked for a better employer I would be______.
- I should be ______.
We do an awful lot of “shoulding, coulding, and woulding.” Often, this insistent voice drives us on our journey and helps us strive for self-improvement. But at the same time it chips away at our self-esteem and deflates our joy. How do we counter that constant commentary? According to Dr. Kristin Neff, it starts with having self-compassion.
Self-compassion is being your own best friend and it begins with self-awareness around the negative self-talk that automatically goes off in our thoughts. Once we become aware of it, we can start to counter and redirect our thoughts to something positive and uplifting. When we reclaim our emotional health, this increases self-esteem, creates self-empowerment, and boosts life satisfaction. The easiest place to start is with mindfulness.
How self-compassionate are you? Take Dr. Kristin Neff’s self-compassion test to see. It’s a great way to increase self-awareness. Remember, no beating yourself up if you’re not where you think you should be. This is the first step to being kind and patient with yourself, fostering more self-love, and cultivating mindfulness to create a well-lived life.
What are some ways you already show yourself compassion? Let me know by leaving a comment. If this exercise is challenging, I’m always available to help you discover, explore, and experiment new ways to increase your life satisfaction.